Living Well

February 12, 2010

Patience and Endurance in a Microwave Society

I am home write now.  Recovering.  The recovery is from a very badly broken femur (thigh bone) that required surgery for the placement of a rod in my leg (from about hip to knee), screws, and metal bands to keep it all together.  It has also taken six weeks of sitting and not putting any weight on my leg.  A metal, “nursing-home-like” walker—fixed with a big basket on the front for carrying items around the house—has been my constant companion.

I have learned (actually relearned) an important lesson during this time.  It has been about patience and endurance. There have been a number of episodes during this time that I will call panic.  They came in weeks three and four of recovery.  These were times when I could not see the possibility of being anywhere else except in a chair looking out the window on the world.  The healing process for a bone is long for a person my age.  So, anxiety and distress came during a number of occasions.  It was then that I was reminded of my mission, my life purpose, and goals, especially by those who love me and give me daily support.  All of these pointed to the fact that this recovery would take patience and endurance, even into the many months yet to come.

I am reminded that we want things to happen so quickly in our society—in the West. We want microwave everything.  Speedy weight loss without effort, success without very hard work, a lifetime of love because I smell good or drive the right car, or healing without many hours of waiting for one’s body to regenerate itself.  We have been blinded by an illusion of instant success—like putting 30 seconds on the microwave and then being frustrated because it is taking too long!  If you don’t believe me take as much time as I have to watch the plethora of commercials that hit us on the TV during a ½ hour episode of anything.

I am reminded not only about this during my recovery which is taking time, but also because I am reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Outliers” (which by the way I highly recommend).  Gladwell convincingly puts forward through a lot of data and studies (which I like) that success comes through hours of work, patience, and endurance.  It comes with putting in a lot of time and effort—at least 10,000 hours of hard work. 

I love words.  I have a 10 pound, 5.4 ounce Funk & Wagnall Comprehensive International Dictionary that is really important to me.  I bought it for $3 at a rummage sale.  Over those 1,466 pages I find the meaning of words that help me really make sense of what we sometimes so flippantly think about or express.  One of those words is endurance.  My F & W says that endurance is “to bear with strain and resistance, but with conscious power, suggesting a contest to win and conquer; patient fortitude.”  Looking further, ‘fortitude’ says “to be strong, a strength of mind to meet and endure unfalteringly—determination; patient and constant courage, enduring courage that steadily confronts threats and barriers.”

In what Gladwell researches and I have found in my own life and work with thousands of people is that success comes through all the ingredients of competence, very hard work, support and networks, and patient endurance; standing courageously and steadily as we confront the threats, barriers, and mishaps of life.  Success doesn’t come instantly; it comes because of well established goals, focus, mission, having a purpose in life, a hopeful vision for the future, and very hard work.  Euripides, the 5th Century BC Greek playwright penned, “To preserve, trusting in what hopes one has, is courage for that person.”  Patience and endurance through hard work brings courage.

W.H. Auden, an American poet, challenges our microwave society and impatience when he wrote, “Perhaps there is only one cardinal sin: impatience. Because of impatience we were driven out of Paradise, because of impatience, we cannot return.”  Living well is not a sprint….it is a courageous, competent, hard working marathon.  That relearned lesson over these many weeks has helped me through these days of sitting, of wondering, of my own anxiety and impatience.  It is a lesson I am glad I found again; it brings courage for the many days yet to unfold.

Blessings as you live well.  Grace and peace.

David Neidert

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