Living Well

January 24, 2010

Your New Year’s Resolutions are Bogus!

Filed under: personal mission — dlneidert @ 6:45 am
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Quick….write down the answer to this question: “How much time did you spend planning your last vacation?”  A few minutes, over 40 hours?  Now answer this question, “How much money did you spend on one or two weeks of vacation?”  One hundred dollars, a thousand, or you had to take out a second mortgage to pay for it?

Honestly, you probably spent more time planning this vacation than giving any consideration to the rest of your life and what will bring a sense of living well.  Most people rely on making New Year’s resolutions as the sum total of their life planning for the coming year.  But what we know about resolutions is that at least 70% of all resolutions will never become reality.  Google Stephen Covey’s New Year’s Resolution survey he does annually and you will find that most people will not stay committed to what they pledge on Dec. 31 of any given year.

Dorothy Fisher, American author, wrote, “If we would only give, just once, the same amount of reflection to what we want to get out of life that we give to the question of what to do with a two weeks’ vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and aimless procession of our busy days.”  About 20 years ago, I got very serious about planning, focused learning, setting annual goals, and determining life legacies—legacies which I believe are important to accomplish during my lifetime.  I stopped setting resolutions, because they are bogus, just like thousands of people’s resolutions.  I took seriously the insight of Fisher.  It has changed my life and it will change yours also.

We have to make choices about what is important in life, what gives us meaning, and how we will work toward those things that will not only allow us to live well, but will influence the lives of those around us for the  good.  We can send our lives amassing day upon day, hour upon hour, just letting the circumstances of life unfold and allowing others to decide where we will end up in life.  Or we can choose to invest time in self reflection, planning, goal setting, and making meaningful choices based on our purpose and meaning in life.

So here it is—set aside 5 hours this week to review some of the previous blogs and consider what is your purpose in life?   Spend this time also considering how  you might begin living in ways that move you toward what is  honestly important in life…not just more accumulation of more days.  Consider how having a sense of purpose will help you make decisions. 

I know this time will make sense and will help you in the future to make important and critical decisions.  I know having a sense of meaning, purpose and goals in life will help you when unfortunate or crisis circumstances catch you by surprise.   I know because all this helped me make important decisions in my own cancer journey.  Stay tuned and I will show you how.

Blessings….Grace and Peace.

David Neidert


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